Why choose?
Why let the world box me in with their “either/or”?
Why dim my light to fit their grayscale world
When my heart beats in colors they’ve never even named?

I am the sun,
Blazing equally on every horizon.
I am the sea,
Reaching every shore with open arms.
And I refuse—
Refuse to be a checkbox, a category, a single shade of paint
On this infinite canvas of humanity.

Why not both?
Why not the depth of his laughter and the curve of her smile?
Why not the strength in their hands, the fire in their eyes,
The way they all make me feel alive?

Love isn’t a question with just one answer.
It’s the song in my soul,
A melody that shifts, changes, and grows,
Too big for the tiny boxes the world tries to shove it into.

They ask, “What are you?”
And I smile.
I am truth and contradiction.
A paradox that feels no need to apologize.

Both.
And more.
And all.

Because life isn’t about halves,
It’s about the whole.
It’s about embracing the pieces,
Letting them dance together,
Forming a mosaic of something beautiful,
Something free,
Something me.

So, let them wonder.
Let them question.
Let them label if they must.

But me?
I’ll just keep loving.
Without borders,
Without fear,
Without permission.

I’ll take my place in the world—
Not as a puzzle to solve
But as a masterpiece to behold.

And I’ll love.
Her. Him. Them.
With no apology, no hesitation.

Because why choose?
When I was made for all of this.
For both,
And more.
And all.

By WhovianPastor

I am the pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ in Belleville, Illinois. I have a Master's of Arts degree in Instructional Strategies as well as a Master's of Divinity degree from Eden Theological Seminary. I am currently working on my Doctorate of Ministry degree. I live with my husband, Shea, and our dog Ivy. I love all things geeky and nerdy. Crafting and theology are my love languages.

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